Love Languages & How They Affect Your Relationships - Quality Time

Love Language Scenario / Explanation - Quality Time

Mmh quality time. It sounds a bit intimidating to some. When you hear someone, lets say a lover, state to you... "I want to hangout and spend time with you." For many, the brain automatically searches for fun and exciting things to do. Like making a day of going out into the city, going to comedy shows, arcades, and amusement parks. For some, the first thing that comes to mind are expenses. Over time we have been taught that spending time with someone you like = making it worth their while. This may mean, an expensive dinner or a full day of activities. But in reality, what they are saying is "I want to spend quality time with you." 

Quality time ≠ What you do or how much you spend, but the quality of mental and emotional stimulation as well as attentiveness. Be present in the moments you share with your significant other. More times than not, when someone's love language is Quality time, it's because this is how they feel closest to you. This is what gives them that feeling of fulfillment and security in the relationship. They thrive off of these times spent with you, and those times spent do not need to be extravagant. 

With that being said, this isn't an excuse to not go out and do nice things with your partner. Like with anything, it's all about balance, right? Every time you spend time it doesn't have to be a big date, but it also shouldn't just be lounging on the couch together. As stated earlier, it's all about mental and emotional stimulation. Key word: stimulation. Chatting on the couch and watching a show together can only stimulate a person to an extent before they're left wanting more. Wanting a variety of quality time experiences. With every activity, different sides to a person is being shared. You don't react the same exact way to everything, being with one another in different environments can trigger the emotion of feeling closer to you. 

Those of you who aren't quality time lovers, you're probably thinking, well...what should I do? Should I not feel the pressure of planning a date and just spend one on one time together? Is one on one time together not enough? What is too much and what isn't enough?? 

Although we wish we had a straight forward answer for you, there isn't one. People are more complex than a single solution. Some are introverts, some are extroverts. I mean, there are 16 personality types after all! To say, this is what you do and this will be your outcome, wouldn't be doing you any justice. 

So, pay attention to your partner. What do they like to do? What do you like to do? How can these things come together as one? 

Think about routines. What if once a month, you both switch off on a date night idea. It doesn't have to be a specific day of each month, unless if you're an organized person who doesn't like surprises that is. It's more so about setting that kind of foundation in your relationship. 

Love languages highlight your wants and needs in a relationship of any sort. Those wants and needs being fulfilled separate a successful and unsuccessful relationship.

So for all the partners of a quality time lover who just cant quite grasp it, Quality time is made up of two very important things

1. Setting time aside for your loved one(s).
2. Giving them your undivided attention while being with them.

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